Back to school time means there won’t be any more daily cries of, “I’m booooooored!” It means the end of those impromptu trips to the beach or the pool. It means that your house will be a little tidier, you will get a little more done, and your kids will get to see friends that they haven’t seen since the school doors closed at the beginning of the summer.
Unfortunately, it also means that it’s time for mom and dad to spend some money. When many Americans can barely make ends meet from month to month without any additional expenses, back-to-school time can be the source of a great deal of stress.
While we, as adults, can tighten the budget relentlessly on items for ourselves, many people have a much more difficult time enforcing frugality on their children. But by ignoring the financial restraints and spending on our kids with reckless abandon, I don’t believe we are doing them any favors. Showering your children with false prosperity doesn’t prepare them for thriving in this world. If times are tough, your kids need to know it. (Here’s how to talk to them about financial problems.)
Figure Out Your Budget
First, a back-to-school budget is a must, and it depends on your personal means. No matter what your child believes they “need,” it has to fit into the budget. For years, I have used the envelope method for things like Christmas and back-to-school shopping. It’s fair, it’s efficient, and it’s tangible. This way, I not only stay within budget, but I teach my kids about budgeting also.
Both of my daughters are very financially responsible and handle money well because they have been making their purchases fit the existing budget since they were old enough to perform the necessary math. There have been years they made poor choices they regretted. However, by allowing them to do this, they learned a lesson you can’t teach them with a verbal warning.
- Make two envelopes with each child’s name on them – one for supplies and clothes. Into the envelope goes a designated amount of cash – this may be $20, $100, or more, depending on your personal finances. (When making the back-to-school budget, be sure to keep your other expenses in mind – you still have to eat and pay your bills!)
- Sit down with the kids and a pile of back-to-school fliers and tell them their budgets. Expect to hear lots of cheering and excitement as the large number floats around in their heads. Then hand them a notebook so they can write down what they need in two columns. Mark one column “supplies” and the other “clothes.”
Critical Teaching Moment: No, Don’t Increase the Budget!
Once they have written up their lists, have them go through the fliers and choose the things they want. Generally, their desires will significantly outstrip their budgets.
This is the time to teach them to figure out which of the items are necessary and which are optional. Have the kids consider their lists. Are there any items they have from last year that would allow them to strike some things off the wish list and free up some more funds? Do they actually NEED a new lunch box or binder, or will last year’s suffice for just a little longer? If they get the $80 jeans, can they manage to purchase the rest of their wardrobe for only $20?
Spend a couple of days brainstorming. Let your kids think about their budgets and their lists. You may be surprised at their solutions for stretching the money. They can search online for deals, and they can get crafty and remake some of their own items. Give them the freedom to be creative and to think for themselves.
Go Shopping! Here Are the Rules.
When you are in the checkout line, have your kids pay from their envelopes. Receipts go back into the appropriate envelope, making it easier for them to see where their money has gone or to make returns or exchanges if necessary. If they are out of money, they are finished shopping unless they opt to return for a refund. This is the key element of teaching your kids to budget. If you don’t enforce this part of the exercise, you’ve completely wasted your time with the rest of it.
My kids always had jobs in the summer – they babysat, did farm chores, and did one-time projects like cleaning out the garage, painting the fence, etc. While they are certainly allowed to supplement their budgets with their own money, quite often, they saved for a bigger item or for spending money throughout the school year instead of spending their cash frivolously. Other times, they save up for one big-ticket clothing item that they know I won’t be buying for them.
Here Are Some Ways For Kids to Stretch Their Back-to-School Dollars
- Clean your room. You might find pens, pencils, and art supplies – instead of buying new ones, you can allocate that money to other things.
- Check out the business supply store. Our local Staples has a great selection of 25 cent school supplies.
- Check the fliers for loss leaders. Wal-Mart is selling loose-leaf paper two packs for $1. Just don’t fall into the marketing trap of buying the overpriced items that the loss leaders display.
- Visit thrift stores. You can get nice things for a fraction of the price if you shop carefully. Plus, no one else can copy your unique vintage style.
- Go to the dollar store. Items like pens, pencils, sharpeners, pencil cases, etc., can be found inexpensively there.
- Focus on accessories. Cool accessories can make last year’s stuff look new.
- Look at new ways to wear old clothes. (This works better for girls than boys.) Last year’s cool dress might be a cute top with leggings this year.
- Refashion old clothes. Turn outgrown jeans into a purse, or use pieces of old stuff to make headbands, scarves, or other accessories.
- Do a dye makeover. If you have some faded black items from the previous year, invest in a package of clothing dye, like RIT. They’ll come out looking as good as new. You can also get other colors and dye things like jeans or tee shirts. If you have an item with a stain that won’t come out, dying it a darker color than the stain can give it a new life.
- Wait until after school starts. If you wait until after the first day of school, you may find that you require different items than expected. Shop for all but the most basic needs after you have gotten your list from the school. Many clothing items go on sale a few weeks after school starts, which will help your money go further.
I have always loved back-to-school time, even now that my kids are no longer little. It seems like a time for new beginnings, much like New Year’s Day. We make new resolutions for the school year ahead, we get organizational goodies and new pens while they’re on sale, and we think about the new habits we want to start as summer comes to an end.
Back-to-school doesn’t have to mean emptying your bank account or racking up your credit card bill. Shop responsibly and teach your kids the value of a budget.
What are your best thrifty back-to-school tricks? Share them in the comments and let’s get our kids dressed and ready on a dime.